Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
I have heard this verse preached all my life. I've seen it hung on nursery walls and in the homes of parents with, most often, small children.
Yes, I agree that if you teach a child in the ways of the Lord, they will not forget. As a 21 year old, I can still remember Sunday school lessons I sat in as a child. To this day, because of SS teacher Mrs. Shelley, I can quote Psalms 23 without hesitation. Things stick with kids! It's just how God created their minds and yearning for learning (like my rhyme?). Unfortunately, more than just the good stays with a your children parents. Unfortunately, the bad stays with us too.
Have you ever gotten in an argument with someone, and they said something very hurtful, and still to this day you can remember everything they've ever said? I bet you are bringing up some memories at this very moment. Whoever said that "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" must've lived in Niceville where everyone smiled and had sweet, encouraging words to say, because that is a lie that has been spread through time. Words hurt. It would be a safe assumption for me to say that I would rather someone get mad at me and punch me in the face than say something to purposefully hurt me.
Words stick, wounds heal.
I am not a parent, so I have no experience and no leg to stand on when it comes to giving out parenting advice. But I am a child, and I do have a leg to stand on when I say that what you say and how you treat your children makes a serious impact on how they speak and treat others, and in the future, their spouse and children.
Here's the thing. You can teach and raise your children in church, never miss Sunday school or a church service, be involved in every activity, read your Bible and pray, but if you are not consistent at home it's all in vain. Just like the world wants to see realness in Christians rather than perfection, your kids want to see the same. They mess up just like YOU messed up, and to hold them to standards of perfection will 1) drive them out of church, or 2) Make them crazy trying to be perfect, then when they mess up, they will think that the failure will be irreconcilable and also quit on God. Maybe even completely. From my own experience, and friends' experiences that I know of, here are some suggestions that maybe your children are thinking, but do not want to say in fear of being disrespectful or punished.
**By the way, your adult children are probably thinking this too.**
-Do not praise your kids in public, then degrade them at home.
-Take the words stupid, dumb, worthless and useless out of your vocabulary.
-Correct them on their mistakes, but offer a solution and not leave it empty.
-Be consistent.
-Be honest, and not afraid to apologize. This does not make you weak in their eyes!! They will love you and respect you more for it.
-Do not say things like "You cost me so much money!" It will make your kids feel like they are a burden and the cause of financial problems. If you don't have the money to spend, then don't! Kids do not expect to have extravagant amounts of money spent on them for their pleasure, or really any at all. They are TAUGHT that.
-If they are involved in sports or clubs at school, support them by going to their events. You will be surprised how far they will go if you encourage it.
-Listen.
Those seven things barely scrape the surface of what goes on in a child's head. You may be reading this, thinking that I have no right to suggest anything to you because I'm not a parent. You're right, I guess I really don't. But working in an after school program where I here kids almost daily talk about their parents and what they wish they would do, or what they wish they wouldn't do. I've heard it from kids at work, church, friends of mine and some from my own experience.
Like I said, the truth is, not only the good stays with a child. The bad does too. They remember every harsh thing you ever say, especially if you make it a point to do it daily. LOVE YOUR KIDS! Despite their flaws. It can make all the difference.
-Carrie Anna
Sunday, December 22, 2013
Monday, December 9, 2013
10 Reasons Why I Have Stayed In Church As a 20-Something
I have had the privilege of growing up in church. In fact, I have had the privilege to grow up in the same church for the past 16 years of my life! After 5 years at one church, my parents wanted to begin going to a church that was ministry-minded rather than just a church that "surviving." During my 8 years in youth group, and now as a young adult, I have seen friends that I thought would never forsake the Lord just up and leave. Almost always because of these 4 reasons: A boyfriend/girlfriend (sometimes a husband or wife), choosing a job(s) that takes them out of church, worldly friends or worldly things (no detail needed). Confusion, hurt and heartbreak are just some of the things I have felt watching people I love loose the joy they once had and give up that joy for fleeting moments of temporary happiness with no satisfaction in life.
These types of situations often prompt me to think of what I am doing for the Lord. How close am I to the line of the choice to serve the Lord or walk away? No one is above that choice, and to say that you will never walk away is ignorant. Peter did so, and denied Christ. I am a lot like Peter. Loud, a lot of times driven by emotions of the moment, and more often than not my foot is in my mouth. So I, thanks to trusted advisers in my life, have done my best to make it a point to see that line and be on guard of my heart and mind to stay close to the Lord.
Against all odds, I am here. Against all odds, I do not want to become a statistic.
Here are 10 reasons why I have stayed in church as a 20-something:
1. My parents loved our pastor. As a 21 year old, I have never heard my parents come home and talk about our pastor in a negative way. I'm sure they have disagreed with him, but if they have I have no clue when. They have always made it a point to be behind him in all his decisions and taught my brother and I to do the same.
2. My parents love our church. Just the same, they led by example to be faithful to church. Never missing a Sunday morning, Sunday night or Wednesday night service (unless job or serious sickness prevents). Special meetings or revivals? We were there. Tuesday night visitation? There. Nursing home (before our jobs hindered)? There. Anytime our church had something going on, they made it a priority by giving and participating. Like Bro. Tony Hutson says, "If your local church is hosting a chicken fight, you better be there and bring a chicken!"
3. Faithfulness was taught by example and word by my pastor, parents and lots of trusted individuals that I looked up to. In my life, I have had examples of faithfulness everywhere around me. My pastor has been the pastor of Fellowship Baptist Church for 20+ years. A lot of pastors are just hirelings who chose to be a pastor as a career choice. My pastor is God-called and in it for the long haul! My parents, immediately after salvation, began going to church, and once at FBC worked in the bus/van ministry, and now have been for 15 years at FBC, and a few years before at Pilgrim Baptist. I wasn't just encouraged to be faithful. "Well, if you can, come Sunday morning to make an appearance. But you don't have to come tonight or Wednesday! I'm just glad to see you Sunday." I was TOLD to be faithful, because we fail daily, but God NEVER fails us. Why not get together with like-minded believers and fellowship in the Lord? It takes three to thrive! I really enjoy the time I get to have with my church family, and I hope I can always make it a priority.
4. My pastor, youth pastor and their families were consistent in their Christian life and faithfulness to the Lord. It was a rare thing for my pastor (or youth pastor when I was a teen-- who had an impact on my life) to not be in church, unless he was very sick, had kidney stones or was on vacation (once a year). They always came to visitation and were in their place. It showed me that if they could have big families and be busier than anyone I know and still make it to church and all church activities, then so could I.
5. My pastor and his wife, as well as my youth pastor and his wife, were ALWAYS available to me if I needed them. Whether it was because I needed advice, or just to talk to someone, they were always there. Being available to young people is imperative, and them being so open to me really made an impression in my eyes and heart.
6. My pastor is super involved in the lives of the young people in his church. Even now as a young adult, if I miss or something happens he will Facebook me, text me or send me a Voxer to see if I'm alright. Or he'll just randomly say something crazy to get my attention, as does he do this to everyone else. One thing I could never deny is that my pastor is genuinely concerned about every aspect of our life (in a good way lol). I remember as a teenager I had invited my youth pastor and his wife to my choral concert, not really expecting they'd come since they had 8 kids and were always super busy. When I saw them sitting in audience I was SO happy and excited that they had taken the time out of their life to hear me sing a short solo in a Disney medley, ha ha. Little things like the ones I mentioned all added up to one big reason to keep on keeping on for the Lord.
7. My pastor is invested in the lives of the young people in his church. I know for a fact that my pastor prays and thinks about me and my needs besides just on Sundays/Wednesdays when he sees me the most. Just recently I was discouraged at some choices I had made, and I thought I had completely failed God. As soon as the thought crossed my mind, I received a Facebook message from Preacher thanking me for " your Dedication, Commitment, Faithfulness, and Loyalty CB. I appreciate it more than you will ever know... you're the kid that caught and kept the vision." I know he wouldn't mind me sharing that, and no one would've never known that he
sent it if I hadn't have just now posted it. It's all the behind the scenes things that have encouraged me in the
Lord and I am thankful for a pastor who is invested!
8. My pastor and his family are the true definition of balanced, and are the realest people I know. They are not fake in anything they do. They admit their mistakes when they make them, and sincerely apologize. They are open books and aren't secretive. They are serious when it comes to the things of God, but both make me laugh more than anyone else I know! I actually traveled with my family to a revival in Alabama 5 hours away, and when the pastor asked where we were from and told him that we were from Fellowship Baptist in Maryville, he smiled and said "Tom Hatley is the most balanced man I know." Which is so true! Young people can point out a fake person from a mile away, just as quickly as they can point out a real one. I am thankful that my pastor is real, as well as the majority of the adults and leaders that surround me. They've always encouraged honesty and that's a pretty significant thing.
9. I was taught and preached truth. As a young child in Sunday School I remember being taught scripture and the whole counsel of God. Never watered down lessons, but lessons that were prayed over and studied by my teachers. I was taught the differences between true Christianity and false religions and what to watch out for as to not be deceived. I was taught WHY I believe what I do, not just told to blindly follow. I was encouraged to study and question and learn for myself and not just answer "because my pastor said."
10. I knew/know that I am loved unconditionally. No matter what I did as a young person, I was told the truth and disciplined in love. I have been in the pastor's office a few times (not always in great circumstances) but I never left hurt. I might have left upset with myself, but never with the ones who were truly trying to help me. I have made some stupid, STUPID mistakes, but I was always handled in love.
So many things have accumulated in my life that have molded me and made me who I am. So many things have come together to place me where I am today! Like I said before, I do not want to be another one fallen off the wayside or just another statistic. Words cannot describe the thankfulness and love I have for the people who have helped me and encouraged me along the way as a girl in her 20-somethings. Pastors/Youth leaders who are reading this, please realize -- if you haven't already-- that how you treat and teach your young people REALLY does matter. Be invested, involved, available, faithful and consistent! It can make the difference in their life and where it goes.
Closing out November with Thanksgiving left me with the list above during a devotion of respecting elders.
So to end, I have a big THANK YOU to my parents, pastor and his wife, youth pastor and his wife, mentors and advisers that have encouraged and loved me through the years, despite my many short comings. Thank you for serving the Lord and bringing up a generation who love Him and want to serve Him behind you!
-Carrie Anna
These types of situations often prompt me to think of what I am doing for the Lord. How close am I to the line of the choice to serve the Lord or walk away? No one is above that choice, and to say that you will never walk away is ignorant. Peter did so, and denied Christ. I am a lot like Peter. Loud, a lot of times driven by emotions of the moment, and more often than not my foot is in my mouth. So I, thanks to trusted advisers in my life, have done my best to make it a point to see that line and be on guard of my heart and mind to stay close to the Lord.
Against all odds, I am here. Against all odds, I do not want to become a statistic.
Here are 10 reasons why I have stayed in church as a 20-something:
1. My parents loved our pastor. As a 21 year old, I have never heard my parents come home and talk about our pastor in a negative way. I'm sure they have disagreed with him, but if they have I have no clue when. They have always made it a point to be behind him in all his decisions and taught my brother and I to do the same.
2. My parents love our church. Just the same, they led by example to be faithful to church. Never missing a Sunday morning, Sunday night or Wednesday night service (unless job or serious sickness prevents). Special meetings or revivals? We were there. Tuesday night visitation? There. Nursing home (before our jobs hindered)? There. Anytime our church had something going on, they made it a priority by giving and participating. Like Bro. Tony Hutson says, "If your local church is hosting a chicken fight, you better be there and bring a chicken!"
3. Faithfulness was taught by example and word by my pastor, parents and lots of trusted individuals that I looked up to. In my life, I have had examples of faithfulness everywhere around me. My pastor has been the pastor of Fellowship Baptist Church for 20+ years. A lot of pastors are just hirelings who chose to be a pastor as a career choice. My pastor is God-called and in it for the long haul! My parents, immediately after salvation, began going to church, and once at FBC worked in the bus/van ministry, and now have been for 15 years at FBC, and a few years before at Pilgrim Baptist. I wasn't just encouraged to be faithful. "Well, if you can, come Sunday morning to make an appearance. But you don't have to come tonight or Wednesday! I'm just glad to see you Sunday." I was TOLD to be faithful, because we fail daily, but God NEVER fails us. Why not get together with like-minded believers and fellowship in the Lord? It takes three to thrive! I really enjoy the time I get to have with my church family, and I hope I can always make it a priority.
4. My pastor, youth pastor and their families were consistent in their Christian life and faithfulness to the Lord. It was a rare thing for my pastor (or youth pastor when I was a teen-- who had an impact on my life) to not be in church, unless he was very sick, had kidney stones or was on vacation (once a year). They always came to visitation and were in their place. It showed me that if they could have big families and be busier than anyone I know and still make it to church and all church activities, then so could I.
5. My pastor and his wife, as well as my youth pastor and his wife, were ALWAYS available to me if I needed them. Whether it was because I needed advice, or just to talk to someone, they were always there. Being available to young people is imperative, and them being so open to me really made an impression in my eyes and heart.
6. My pastor is super involved in the lives of the young people in his church. Even now as a young adult, if I miss or something happens he will Facebook me, text me or send me a Voxer to see if I'm alright. Or he'll just randomly say something crazy to get my attention, as does he do this to everyone else. One thing I could never deny is that my pastor is genuinely concerned about every aspect of our life (in a good way lol). I remember as a teenager I had invited my youth pastor and his wife to my choral concert, not really expecting they'd come since they had 8 kids and were always super busy. When I saw them sitting in audience I was SO happy and excited that they had taken the time out of their life to hear me sing a short solo in a Disney medley, ha ha. Little things like the ones I mentioned all added up to one big reason to keep on keeping on for the Lord.
7. My pastor is invested in the lives of the young people in his church. I know for a fact that my pastor prays and thinks about me and my needs besides just on Sundays/Wednesdays when he sees me the most. Just recently I was discouraged at some choices I had made, and I thought I had completely failed God. As soon as the thought crossed my mind, I received a Facebook message from Preacher thanking me for " your Dedication, Commitment, Faithfulness, and Loyalty CB. I appreciate it more than you will ever know... you're the kid that caught and kept the vision." I know he wouldn't mind me sharing that, and no one would've never known that he
sent it if I hadn't have just now posted it. It's all the behind the scenes things that have encouraged me in the
Lord and I am thankful for a pastor who is invested!
8. My pastor and his family are the true definition of balanced, and are the realest people I know. They are not fake in anything they do. They admit their mistakes when they make them, and sincerely apologize. They are open books and aren't secretive. They are serious when it comes to the things of God, but both make me laugh more than anyone else I know! I actually traveled with my family to a revival in Alabama 5 hours away, and when the pastor asked where we were from and told him that we were from Fellowship Baptist in Maryville, he smiled and said "Tom Hatley is the most balanced man I know." Which is so true! Young people can point out a fake person from a mile away, just as quickly as they can point out a real one. I am thankful that my pastor is real, as well as the majority of the adults and leaders that surround me. They've always encouraged honesty and that's a pretty significant thing.
9. I was taught and preached truth. As a young child in Sunday School I remember being taught scripture and the whole counsel of God. Never watered down lessons, but lessons that were prayed over and studied by my teachers. I was taught the differences between true Christianity and false religions and what to watch out for as to not be deceived. I was taught WHY I believe what I do, not just told to blindly follow. I was encouraged to study and question and learn for myself and not just answer "because my pastor said."
10. I knew/know that I am loved unconditionally. No matter what I did as a young person, I was told the truth and disciplined in love. I have been in the pastor's office a few times (not always in great circumstances) but I never left hurt. I might have left upset with myself, but never with the ones who were truly trying to help me. I have made some stupid, STUPID mistakes, but I was always handled in love.
So many things have accumulated in my life that have molded me and made me who I am. So many things have come together to place me where I am today! Like I said before, I do not want to be another one fallen off the wayside or just another statistic. Words cannot describe the thankfulness and love I have for the people who have helped me and encouraged me along the way as a girl in her 20-somethings. Pastors/Youth leaders who are reading this, please realize -- if you haven't already-- that how you treat and teach your young people REALLY does matter. Be invested, involved, available, faithful and consistent! It can make the difference in their life and where it goes.
Closing out November with Thanksgiving left me with the list above during a devotion of respecting elders.
So to end, I have a big THANK YOU to my parents, pastor and his wife, youth pastor and his wife, mentors and advisers that have encouraged and loved me through the years, despite my many short comings. Thank you for serving the Lord and bringing up a generation who love Him and want to serve Him behind you!
-Carrie Anna
Thursday, November 7, 2013
Photos for the Gospel
And He said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel unto every creature. mark 16:15
Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, the Son and of the Holy Ghost: Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen. Matthew 28: 19-20
I love missions.
Period.
As Christians (which does mean Christ-like), we are supposed to love the things that God loves and hate the things He hates. My pastor has said before, that missions is the heartbeat of God and I completely agree.
Last August a group of 20 (or team of 20 as Preacher called it) took a 20 hour plane ride to the most beautiful place I've ever laid my eyes on... South Africa. The scenery was beautiful. Seeing the Indian Ocean crashing onto the coast was beautiful. Above all, the people were beautiful. Every church we went to that the missionaries had started were so welcoming and warm to us. They bore with us trying to do the "click" in Xhosa -- when we were brave to attempt... which I failed miserably at-- and the first few times of realizing they shake hands differently than us. As we were moving Madiba Bay Baptist Church out of their store front building into their new building they had bought, we helped the Mamas clean. They then bore with us ladies as we tried to help clean the building... laughing all the way. :) Such happiness and joy was on their face. In a carnal, wordly view you could assume these ladies and their families shouldn't be so happy because they don't have all the things we as Americans think we need for happiness. Someone once said, that "If you have everything but Jesus, you have nothing. If you nothing but Jesus, you have all you need." Oh, how this was engraved into my mind and heart those two weeks. My heart was knit with them, and I'm sure I can speak for everyone when I say that.
So here we are, about 7ish months away from our next missions trip to China to visit the Tolson's. I have been praying about going on this missions trip, and Lord willing I will be going! As well as to South Africa the following year, again, if the Lord permits and He doesn't change our pastor's mind (which my parents are going on this... so that's exciting!).
I have decided to use my new found hobby to raise support to go. I will be taking photos for any occasion for a low price, then anything else above is just a donation. ALL PROCEEDS WILL GO TOWARDS THESE TRIPS FROM HERE ON OUT. The price will be a flat rate of $40 per session, and events such as weddings will be $60 plus any donation over that you'd like to make.
These will include an unlimited amount of photos/time/outfits/locations/days and I will put them on a CD, so you will be able to download and print freely. Also, you can do any other editing you want. I will also be editing them before hand, so any editing you do after is your decision. The CD will have copies of the final products and without the logo that I use for posting it online. So if you're interested, feel free to message me on here or shoot me a text or private message on Facebook. Most photographers charge by the hour, plus an extra fee for wear and tear on their cameras and time put into editing so, I'm making these really affordable. Great pictures for a great price! Plus I'm getting some good practice. :) Share with your friends and family! Below are links to the websites for the families serving in South Africa and for the Tolsons in China. Women Behind the Scenes is a blog by missionary wives that I really enjoy reading. Also, a post on their by Mrs. Amy Coffey (SA) about her experience learning to make amagwinya, a.k.a. the most amazing deep fried bread ever! Check these websites out and pray for these families serving the Lord in SA and China! God bless.
- Carrie Anna
Monday, October 28, 2013
Chipping Away a Heart of Stone
We had such a great day in church today! My pastor preached on How to Be an Effective Soul Winner (split between both services) and it really blessed my heart. Very briefly he had us turn to Isaiah 51:1.
Although he hit it quickly, the scripture didn't leave me.
When I think of where I was two and three years ago, and see where I am now, I can't ignore the blessings that have been poured into my life and the change that has been wrought on my heart. You see, I was bitter. Angry. Unforgiving. Hurt... and guess what? I chose to be that way. Granted, I was only 19 and fresh out of high school. Still naive about the fact that people will leave you & despitefully use you. Impressionable.
When I was 18 (almost 19) I was deeply hurt by a person I loved. I will not go into detail, but it seemed as though the trust was damaged beyond compare. At first, I was heartbroken. I cried a lot, wanted to be alone and just wanted answers. Shortly after the heartbreak, I became angry. I thought, "Why would they do this to me! I have been there for them through thick and thin, and they repay me with evil!" After a week or so of anger came the unforgiving heart. In my heart I made the decision to only forgive them after they came crawling back to me. I mean, hey... they're the ones that wronged me! All the while, with each step past the hurt that I knowingly took, seeds of bitterness were planted. A few here, and a few there until my heart was a mangled mess of thorns and weeds. Bitterness had won, and I was getting my face shoved in the dirt. The year or so after that was horrible. See, when you become bitter you turn your face away from the Lord and look to yourself. You see everything one-sided. You believe everyone should cater to your feelings and emotions. I'll even be honest here. I saw the blessings the Lord was giving my "enemy" and was literally angry with Him. Why would he bless them after all the wrong they have done? Let me tell you... I was miserable.
But why was I miserable? Was it because of the incident that happened in the year previous? NO! I was way past that. I remember when I first came to the realization at what I had allowed to happen to my heart, and I tried to remind myself of what that person had done and why I was so angry. I couldn't even remember all the little things that I had accumulated over the years that I thought were true wrongs. See, that's what bitterness does. When you are bitter, every little thing that that person does to you makes you mad beyond words. One seed there. They look at you in a rude way (at least that's what you perceive). Two seeds there. And so on, and so on. **Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23**. I was miserable because I was making myself miserable! I allowed my heart to be overtaken with bitterness and because of that, sometimes I even fueled a fire with others bitterness that they had.
When I first realized what had happened to me and what I had done as a result, I couldn't help but break. Next thing I knew, I was on my bedroom floor begging God to take away the bitterness. I wanted to be happy again and I didn't want to let my bitterness get any more out of hand than it already had. That night was a turning point in my life. **Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.** I began reading my Bible again (because once I became all about me through my bitterness, I stopped focusing on the important aspects of my life). He used my personal study and the mentoring our pastor's wife Mrs. Kim was giving to us to soften my heart. I began adding this person to my prayer list, and praying for them. Then, every time I thought about them (positive or negative) I would pray for them and ask the Lord to work on my heart and theirs to mend it back together. **But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; Matthew 5:44** It was a slow process. Friendly hello's here and there, then a true smile, then real conversations and then I found myself with them on the weekends and then before I knew it, it was like nothing had happened. At first I was in shock, and after being so hurt I was guarded I re entered the friendship with caution. Now I serve the Lord beside them, laugh with them and enjoy life with them.
Earlier I I typed "enemy" with the quotations around it. They were/are not my enemy. The person who hurt you is not your enemy. The person you are mad at is not your enemy. **Be sober, be vigilant, because YOUR adversary the devil walketh about as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 1 Peter 5:8**. Our only enemy is Satan. So all these trivial things that happen in life are not in the big picture. Here is the big picture: Souls are lost, dying and on their way to Hell. While you are busy with your little world, moping and allowing those seeds of bitterness to take root in your heart, you are doing nothing about it. You are a dull tool in the work of winning the lost. So back to Isaiah 51:1... :)
**Hearken to me, ye that follow after righteousness, ye that seek the Lord: look unto the rock whence ye are hewn, and to the hole of the pit whence ye are digged.** Want to get defeat bitterness? Look to the Rock. He conformed us in His image. He is angry and sins not. He has unending compassion. He loves you without fail, as well as the person that hurt you. Look to the hole of that deep pit of sin that you were dug out of by God's hand. You have just as many--or more--flaws than everyone else! So what makes you think that you are better than them? Yes, they hurt you. But guess what? They're flesh. JUST. LIKE. YOU.
Forgiveness is instantaneous, but forgetting is a process. Have you ever heard the phrase "Don't be bitter, be better?" It seems a little cheesy, but it's true. Although it is true, it is easier said than done. In the past month I have attempted to help some friends who are struggling with forgiveness. I gave them this challenge: Pray for them. It's pretty hard to be angry and bitter towards someone if you're earnestly praying for them. I know that it hurts. I know that it's hard to let go of the pieces they left you in. Let go of those pieces and all the anger and let Christ put together a beautiful picture of grace, love and forgiveness. When you leave those things with Him, He makes it to where the only person who can get the glory from this is Him... where all glory, honor, praise and credit is due in the first place! I am not perfect, but I have made A LOT of mistakes and have tried to allow God to teach me through them. I'll leave you with this.
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32
-Carrie Anna
When I was 18 (almost 19) I was deeply hurt by a person I loved. I will not go into detail, but it seemed as though the trust was damaged beyond compare. At first, I was heartbroken. I cried a lot, wanted to be alone and just wanted answers. Shortly after the heartbreak, I became angry. I thought, "Why would they do this to me! I have been there for them through thick and thin, and they repay me with evil!" After a week or so of anger came the unforgiving heart. In my heart I made the decision to only forgive them after they came crawling back to me. I mean, hey... they're the ones that wronged me! All the while, with each step past the hurt that I knowingly took, seeds of bitterness were planted. A few here, and a few there until my heart was a mangled mess of thorns and weeds. Bitterness had won, and I was getting my face shoved in the dirt. The year or so after that was horrible. See, when you become bitter you turn your face away from the Lord and look to yourself. You see everything one-sided. You believe everyone should cater to your feelings and emotions. I'll even be honest here. I saw the blessings the Lord was giving my "enemy" and was literally angry with Him. Why would he bless them after all the wrong they have done? Let me tell you... I was miserable.
But why was I miserable? Was it because of the incident that happened in the year previous? NO! I was way past that. I remember when I first came to the realization at what I had allowed to happen to my heart, and I tried to remind myself of what that person had done and why I was so angry. I couldn't even remember all the little things that I had accumulated over the years that I thought were true wrongs. See, that's what bitterness does. When you are bitter, every little thing that that person does to you makes you mad beyond words. One seed there. They look at you in a rude way (at least that's what you perceive). Two seeds there. And so on, and so on. **Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23**. I was miserable because I was making myself miserable! I allowed my heart to be overtaken with bitterness and because of that, sometimes I even fueled a fire with others bitterness that they had.
When I first realized what had happened to me and what I had done as a result, I couldn't help but break. Next thing I knew, I was on my bedroom floor begging God to take away the bitterness. I wanted to be happy again and I didn't want to let my bitterness get any more out of hand than it already had. That night was a turning point in my life. **Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.** I began reading my Bible again (because once I became all about me through my bitterness, I stopped focusing on the important aspects of my life). He used my personal study and the mentoring our pastor's wife Mrs. Kim was giving to us to soften my heart. I began adding this person to my prayer list, and praying for them. Then, every time I thought about them (positive or negative) I would pray for them and ask the Lord to work on my heart and theirs to mend it back together. **But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; Matthew 5:44** It was a slow process. Friendly hello's here and there, then a true smile, then real conversations and then I found myself with them on the weekends and then before I knew it, it was like nothing had happened. At first I was in shock, and after being so hurt I was guarded I re entered the friendship with caution. Now I serve the Lord beside them, laugh with them and enjoy life with them.
Earlier I I typed "enemy" with the quotations around it. They were/are not my enemy. The person who hurt you is not your enemy. The person you are mad at is not your enemy. **Be sober, be vigilant, because YOUR adversary the devil walketh about as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 1 Peter 5:8**. Our only enemy is Satan. So all these trivial things that happen in life are not in the big picture. Here is the big picture: Souls are lost, dying and on their way to Hell. While you are busy with your little world, moping and allowing those seeds of bitterness to take root in your heart, you are doing nothing about it. You are a dull tool in the work of winning the lost. So back to Isaiah 51:1... :)
**Hearken to me, ye that follow after righteousness, ye that seek the Lord: look unto the rock whence ye are hewn, and to the hole of the pit whence ye are digged.** Want to get defeat bitterness? Look to the Rock. He conformed us in His image. He is angry and sins not. He has unending compassion. He loves you without fail, as well as the person that hurt you. Look to the hole of that deep pit of sin that you were dug out of by God's hand. You have just as many--or more--flaws than everyone else! So what makes you think that you are better than them? Yes, they hurt you. But guess what? They're flesh. JUST. LIKE. YOU.
Forgiveness is instantaneous, but forgetting is a process. Have you ever heard the phrase "Don't be bitter, be better?" It seems a little cheesy, but it's true. Although it is true, it is easier said than done. In the past month I have attempted to help some friends who are struggling with forgiveness. I gave them this challenge: Pray for them. It's pretty hard to be angry and bitter towards someone if you're earnestly praying for them. I know that it hurts. I know that it's hard to let go of the pieces they left you in. Let go of those pieces and all the anger and let Christ put together a beautiful picture of grace, love and forgiveness. When you leave those things with Him, He makes it to where the only person who can get the glory from this is Him... where all glory, honor, praise and credit is due in the first place! I am not perfect, but I have made A LOT of mistakes and have tried to allow God to teach me through them. I'll leave you with this.
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32
-Carrie Anna
Tuesday, October 1, 2013
It's Fall, y'all!
Hey, Hey, Hey! (It's Fat Albert? No? Okay...)
Soooo, I haven't blogged since mid August... this is equally due to several factors. One, I have had a crazy schedule. Two, I am in an intense search for a full time job. Three, I am in an intense search for a reliable car that isn't going to cost me more than it's worth. The last two things have been very taxing and stressing. But have no fear! I am still happy as a lark :) Exciting things are coming in the future... but let's talk about the now... FALL!
It has finally made it's way to East Tennessee. I woke up this morning and saw that the temperature on my phone read 62 degrees. I could've shouted! But, as usual, the high today will be barely 80. That's Tennessee for ya.
If you know me you know that I love to paint my nails, as well as painting anyone else's nails who will allow me to. So I have started my search for my Fall colors. I generally am one of those girls who sticks to certain colors every year. I usually choose a couple of shades of orange (Go VOLS!), a few shades of blacks and browns and a few shades of red. But since this year has been far from the norm, I decided to do the same with my nail color choices.
The cost ranged from free to about $7. Not too shabby! I have been partial to purples and reds here lately, even during the Summer months. I am extremely pleased and happy with all of these colors! The quality varies, depending on how I'm wearing them. Let me explain...
Soooo, I haven't blogged since mid August... this is equally due to several factors. One, I have had a crazy schedule. Two, I am in an intense search for a full time job. Three, I am in an intense search for a reliable car that isn't going to cost me more than it's worth. The last two things have been very taxing and stressing. But have no fear! I am still happy as a lark :) Exciting things are coming in the future... but let's talk about the now... FALL!
It has finally made it's way to East Tennessee. I woke up this morning and saw that the temperature on my phone read 62 degrees. I could've shouted! But, as usual, the high today will be barely 80. That's Tennessee for ya.
If you know me you know that I love to paint my nails, as well as painting anyone else's nails who will allow me to. So I have started my search for my Fall colors. I generally am one of those girls who sticks to certain colors every year. I usually choose a couple of shades of orange (Go VOLS!), a few shades of blacks and browns and a few shades of red. But since this year has been far from the norm, I decided to do the same with my nail color choices.
The cost ranged from free to about $7. Not too shabby! I have been partial to purples and reds here lately, even during the Summer months. I am extremely pleased and happy with all of these colors! The quality varies, depending on how I'm wearing them. Let me explain...
Okay! So the first two polishes here are a nude pink from Revlon and a fuschia purple by Forever 21.
Revlon, Classy: Cons- Because of the color, it takes about 3 coats to get thick coverage. If you don't, it will chip quicker. At least that seems to be my observation. Pros- For my skin tone (olive), it is a PERFECT nude! The color doesn't reflect an orangey type of pigment, which is a problem I had with other nudes I tried in the past. Colors that look awesome layered with it: Black and gold! I used my small brushes to draw black and gold triangles on a few nails and I loved them. It matched all my outfits and received great reviews. :) Also, Revlon is a good quality polish for a great price... around $4.
Love & Beauty by Forever 21, Strawberry (scented): Yep. You read that right. SCENTED (after it dries)! My inner child was very happy to find this. :) Cons- Definitely needs a top coat to give it a good color and shine; otherwise, it will be dull. Pros- Very pretty purple! It may be a little bright for Fall, but it's not so bright that it can't be used. I paid 99 cents for this polish, and the few times I've used it, it hasn't chipped. It paints on good (I only used one coat), and with the top coat it's unstoppable! Colors that look great with this is gray and black. So if you're like me and wear black all winter long, using this polish --or a color like it-- will add color and could even brighten your mood. :)
This is the polish I am currently sporting.
Pure Ice, All Nighter: Out of all of these colors, this is one that I buy every year without fail. Despite it's red appearance in the picture, it is more of a deep maroon. Imagine a color made of red, purple and bronze... that is the color of this polish! Cons- I have to "clean" my nails with baking soda after keeping the polish on for a long period of time (usually two-ish weeks). But all reds and purples have that effect. Also, the polish does like to chip at the tip of the nail. I usually carry it in my purse with Orly's In A Snap to dry it quickly. Pros- Beautiful color. Fresh alternative to a plain red color. $1.97 at Walmart, so it doesn't break the bank. EXACT match to Essie's Wrapped in Rubies (proven by matching my nails to my neighbors who just happened to have hers painted with the $8 polish... score!!!). This color is an awesome backdrop to a cheetah print design. Very fierce.
These last two look awesome paired together... which is the reasoning behind their pairing in the picture. :)
O.P.I., Super Bass Shatter: I am not a big fan of "crackle" polishes. Don't shoot me! It's just not my thing. But the color is gorgeous! My aunt, who is a cosmetologist, gave this to me while I was at her salon because her clients never choose it.. so I figured I could give it a try. Cons- Because it's such a dark purple, it has a limited range of colors that can be used beneath it. So far I have used the a nude (the first color up top) and the gray pictured with it. Pros- Because it is from the glorious O.P.I., it doesn't chip or fade. I had this on my nails for over two weeks and only put a new top coat on once. Looks best with solid colored outfits by working at the accessory. This polish can be found at any salons or drug stores usually, and Kroger! Unless there is a sale (usually only on sale at a salon) it can be purchased just south of $9.
China Glaze, Elephant Walk: Awesome gray! Cons- I have had a lot of China Glaze polishes, and it seems that they chip easily (and quickly) unless you use a base coat, bonder, two coats, plus a top coat... you get the picture. Most people don't have the time (or money) to do that. Pros- I know that nothing in this world is perfect, but this gray... oooh, this gray! Two coats and you're good to go! Doesn't look gross (like most grays) and goes with almost everything in your wardrobe. Looks great with navy, purple and black/white.
If you are looking for a new take on your fall nails besides the obvious reds, browns and oranges... try these out! Happy shopping and happy Fall, y'all :)
-Carrie Anna
**I forgot to add this to my original post! The best base coat I've ever used is Orly Bonder Rubberized Base Coat. So if you have an Orly near you and you get coupons in the mail, get it!!! Also, their In A Snap dries polish in "minutes"... more like seconds! These two things make life easier. Enjoy! :)
Friday, August 16, 2013
Goodly & Living Heritage
Yesterday I blogged about my parents testimony a little bit. I enjoyed writing it like a story (I was always a little creative with my words as a child), as well as being able to take some time to brag on God. Like David, I can say that I have a goodly heritage.
"The lines are fallen unto me in pleasant places; yea, I have a goodly heritage." Psalm 16:6
Although I do have a Christian foundation in my family, there are many (in most cases) that do not have that privilege. I have a few friends that have this struggle. They sometimes will confess to me that it is hard for them to live for the Lord when they go home to a life that is contrary to what they want to live. I think we can all agree that it's hard to do something, for the Lord or just anything you set your mind to, when you have negativity coming from home. I can be all smiles and super pumped about an idea, but the moment I get some criticism or negative advice from a family member, I dismiss it almost immediately and change my mind. Sometimes this is good, but other times--like if we are witnessing to family-- it is dangerous. Eternally dangerous. Their souls are in the balance of what you and I feel is comfortable. Is it comfortable talking about the Lord, salvation & witnessing to lost family? Not usually. But the Great Commission does not call us to be comfortable and witness when it's convenient. There's no rest periods or vacation days. It is an anywhere you go, whatever you do, whoever you're with commission.
The truth of the following statement is a very simple truth; total common sense! "Light shines the brightest in the dark." Pretty simple, right? Yet when a little bit of darkness comes in our life we put out the flame in order not to hurt anyone's eyes. I have always had a Christian family (immediate family), so no... I cannot say that I completely know what you are going through if this is you. Because I have close friends that are the only "active" Christians in their home, I can tell you that it is possible to be faithful in church and do right with that home life. It is possible to win your lost family to the Lord. I'm not saying it is easy... but it is worth it. They are looking to you. Yes, they're your parents/aunts/uncles/grandparents/siblings. They may be older than you, and you think that they should be the ones to be leading you. But, as of right now, YOU-- as a saved person-- are responsible for being a witness. YOU are responsible to be the light in darkness. Just as I am responsible to be that light to lost family, friends and who ever I may meet that needs Christ.
That seemed a little scolding. It wasn't at all! If you know my personality, I am just a very dogmatic person ha ha. With that being put aside, although you may not have a "goodly heritage" in a sense that your parents raised you in church, their saved and so on, but you have a goodly heritage in Christ! If you are saved, Christ lives in you... yes? So you have a living heritage!! You have the necessary tool to start your earthly heritage now! My parents showed that in their life... they made that decision for themselves without a godly influence in their home (well, my Nannie was but she lived in Indiana away from my mom). It is an option!
There is a song called "Goodly Heritage" that is very popular among Independent Baptist churches. At least I've noticed that, because I've never heard anyone else sing it. A lot of times people will preach on the goodly heritage we have at home out of Psalm 16:6. It can definitely be applied that way; but if you read the chapter in context, David says that the LORD is his goodly heritage.
*The Lord is the portion of mine inheritance* and of my cup: thou maintainest my lot. The lines are fallen unto me in pleasant places; yea, I have a goodly heritage. Psalm 16:5-6.
Bro. Dervin Spears said, "Whatever Jesus gets I get, and whatever Jesus has I have!" I am thankful for what I have been blessed with on earth, but I am also thankful for my inheritance and blessing waiting for me in Heaven! Glory to His Name!
I am thankful for my "goodly heritage" at home. You may not have a Christian home, but guess what... if you are saved, you have a LIVING heritage in Christ! He is the portion of our inheritance in Heaven. You can make the choice to be the one to step out and claim it for you and your future family.
-Carrie Anna
That seemed a little scolding. It wasn't at all! If you know my personality, I am just a very dogmatic person ha ha. With that being put aside, although you may not have a "goodly heritage" in a sense that your parents raised you in church, their saved and so on, but you have a goodly heritage in Christ! If you are saved, Christ lives in you... yes? So you have a living heritage!! You have the necessary tool to start your earthly heritage now! My parents showed that in their life... they made that decision for themselves without a godly influence in their home (well, my Nannie was but she lived in Indiana away from my mom). It is an option!
There is a song called "Goodly Heritage" that is very popular among Independent Baptist churches. At least I've noticed that, because I've never heard anyone else sing it. A lot of times people will preach on the goodly heritage we have at home out of Psalm 16:6. It can definitely be applied that way; but if you read the chapter in context, David says that the LORD is his goodly heritage.
*The Lord is the portion of mine inheritance* and of my cup: thou maintainest my lot. The lines are fallen unto me in pleasant places; yea, I have a goodly heritage. Psalm 16:5-6.
Bro. Dervin Spears said, "Whatever Jesus gets I get, and whatever Jesus has I have!" I am thankful for what I have been blessed with on earth, but I am also thankful for my inheritance and blessing waiting for me in Heaven! Glory to His Name!
I am thankful for my "goodly heritage" at home. You may not have a Christian home, but guess what... if you are saved, you have a LIVING heritage in Christ! He is the portion of our inheritance in Heaven. You can make the choice to be the one to step out and claim it for you and your future family.
-Carrie Anna
Thursday, August 15, 2013
Trophies of Grace
23 years ago, a young woman fresh out of her teenage years was invited to hear a guy she graduated with preach his first message. He was the cousin of her boyfriend at the time, and despite not wanting to go to church, she did anyway. She already knew the family, so she wasn't completely uncomfortable. As she sat and listened to this twenty-something preach a 15 minute presentation of the Gospel (that included reading the text, preaching and praying) she fell under conviction and was saved that night. She turned from her past and immediately started going to church and doing her best to serve God.
At this time, in the same town, there was a man having the time of his life... according to the world's standards. He was the drummer in a successful local rock band working their way to "the big time," living the lifestyle of a rock-star (no more detail needed). Although he was having a good time, on the inside he knew there had to be something else to life. He was brought up in a home that believed in God, and he did have a head knowledge, but never had been saved.
In 1991, he was enjoying his normal day with friends & looked out the window of his apartment. There was the young woman walking to her car. He joked with his friends saying, "I'm gonna marry that girl." Little did he know that that young woman worked at the same salon as his sister! After begging his sister to "hook them up," she told him that she was a Christian and wouldn't be interested. Against the odds, they began dating. She'd go see him play in his show, go to concerts... usual dating stuff. Early in the relationship (weeks), he knew she was the one. After confessing this, she suggested they see other people. To no one's surprise, that was quickly changed to "I don't want to see anyone else." Just a few shorts months later in August, they were married
One month later in late September, they found out they were expecting!
Although they were unequally yoked (believer with unbeliever), he still would go to church with her. Sat under good preaching and singing, never went forward.
One night in October, he was sitting in church as usual, but under heavy conviction. When the altar call was given, he stood up, but his hands were completely fastened to the pew. One of the elderly ladies in the church was sitting next to him, the one that helped my mom when she was first saved, and gently touched his hand. He let go, walked down the isle and got saved that night! That night their lives changed forever. They were now a couple that was striving to serve and please God TOGETHER with their life! They started serving in their local church, doing youth ministry as well as trying to start a van ministry. In June of 1992, their daughter was born and less than two years later their son. 22 years later, they are still serving the Lord faithfully! Been at the same church for 17 years and have been serving together in the van/bus ministry for 16 of those years.
The Lord truly works in ways beyond our understanding.
He brought my mom and her family when she was 15 all the way from Kokomo, Indiana to Maryville, TN (where my mom's stepdad is from). JUST so happened to be the same age as the guy who preached the night she was saved (who is our pastor now, Bro. Tom Hatley). Then putting my dad, who is a tad (ha) older than my mom, in the same apartment building as her. And THEN having my mom work with my dad's sister Vanessa at the JC Penny salon. Like, for real. How in the world did this happen? I'll tell you how it happened.
God made it happen. He has had our family in mind from the day he died on the cross for our sins. He has had our family in mind in every step that has brought them to this place that they are in today. Because of their decision not to just be saved, but to be a dedicated servant to Christ, it forever changed the direction of how my family COULD have ended up. How I could have ended up.
**Take heed to this. One decision can change your life! So when you say that your decisions don't affect others, this is just one example of how dreadfully wrong that statement is. Even as a single person, my mom's decisions changed her life. Same for my dad.**
My dad is not a preacher, but he and my mom are faithful to the Lord and our church. They are very loyal & humble people who would defend the Truth at all costs. They have done well in training Jacob & I in the ways of the Lord. We were always faithful to church. Even having small children they always took us on the route on Saturday and we rode the bus on Sunday. We didn't get "free Saturdays" or "free Sundays" that I hear some kids/teens/adults talk about these days. Free Sunday? You mean, free Sunday... as in no choir practice? Haha
At this time, in the same town, there was a man having the time of his life... according to the world's standards. He was the drummer in a successful local rock band working their way to "the big time," living the lifestyle of a rock-star (no more detail needed). Although he was having a good time, on the inside he knew there had to be something else to life. He was brought up in a home that believed in God, and he did have a head knowledge, but never had been saved.
In 1991, he was enjoying his normal day with friends & looked out the window of his apartment. There was the young woman walking to her car. He joked with his friends saying, "I'm gonna marry that girl." Little did he know that that young woman worked at the same salon as his sister! After begging his sister to "hook them up," she told him that she was a Christian and wouldn't be interested. Against the odds, they began dating. She'd go see him play in his show, go to concerts... usual dating stuff. Early in the relationship (weeks), he knew she was the one. After confessing this, she suggested they see other people. To no one's surprise, that was quickly changed to "I don't want to see anyone else." Just a few shorts months later in August, they were married
One month later in late September, they found out they were expecting!
Although they were unequally yoked (believer with unbeliever), he still would go to church with her. Sat under good preaching and singing, never went forward.
One night in October, he was sitting in church as usual, but under heavy conviction. When the altar call was given, he stood up, but his hands were completely fastened to the pew. One of the elderly ladies in the church was sitting next to him, the one that helped my mom when she was first saved, and gently touched his hand. He let go, walked down the isle and got saved that night! That night their lives changed forever. They were now a couple that was striving to serve and please God TOGETHER with their life! They started serving in their local church, doing youth ministry as well as trying to start a van ministry. In June of 1992, their daughter was born and less than two years later their son. 22 years later, they are still serving the Lord faithfully! Been at the same church for 17 years and have been serving together in the van/bus ministry for 16 of those years.
The Lord truly works in ways beyond our understanding.
He brought my mom and her family when she was 15 all the way from Kokomo, Indiana to Maryville, TN (where my mom's stepdad is from). JUST so happened to be the same age as the guy who preached the night she was saved (who is our pastor now, Bro. Tom Hatley). Then putting my dad, who is a tad (ha) older than my mom, in the same apartment building as her. And THEN having my mom work with my dad's sister Vanessa at the JC Penny salon. Like, for real. How in the world did this happen? I'll tell you how it happened.
God made it happen. He has had our family in mind from the day he died on the cross for our sins. He has had our family in mind in every step that has brought them to this place that they are in today. Because of their decision not to just be saved, but to be a dedicated servant to Christ, it forever changed the direction of how my family COULD have ended up. How I could have ended up.
**Take heed to this. One decision can change your life! So when you say that your decisions don't affect others, this is just one example of how dreadfully wrong that statement is. Even as a single person, my mom's decisions changed her life. Same for my dad.**
My dad is not a preacher, but he and my mom are faithful to the Lord and our church. They are very loyal & humble people who would defend the Truth at all costs. They have done well in training Jacob & I in the ways of the Lord. We were always faithful to church. Even having small children they always took us on the route on Saturday and we rode the bus on Sunday. We didn't get "free Saturdays" or "free Sundays" that I hear some kids/teens/adults talk about these days. Free Sunday? You mean, free Sunday... as in no choir practice? Haha
I am not perfect. Neither are my parents. We argue and get mad. We sin. We are human. I could give you a list of things that my parents have done wrong in my eyes. C'mon, I'm 21. But the list of things that my parents have done for me to meet my physical needs, as well as helping me spiritually, out number the bad astronomically. They are hard workers. In their worldly jobs, at home and for the Lord. They both have servant's hearts, and that is something that even big time preachers and evangelists cannot say they possess (trust me, I can tell lol).
I am so thankful that God's ways are not our ways. We want the easy way out. A cop-out, basically. We want the low hanging fruit. The cheapest and quickest way out. So we have a generic result. But, when God has his way, he gives us a beautiful picture of His love and care for us. So much that he would plan out the details of our lives to make it as happy and blessed as possible while we serve Him. And in some cases, like my parents, He gives us a beautiful trophy of grace.
-Carrie Anna
I made this post in honor of my parents upcoming 22 anniversary in a week(ish)! My mom turned 44 in June, this is their 22 anniversary and my dad is turning 55 this October! Funny how it's all double numbers :)
Happy Anniversary!
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Big Hair Don't Care
When I started this blog, I set a goal that I would post on a weekly basis; but since I am a perfectionist, I am still editing and working on a couple of ideas. Yes. I literally have a folder in my OneNotebook solely dedicated to brain storming ideas for my blog. Yes. I am a nerd.
Anyhoo, I was looking through my blog ideas and decided on one that I very rarely see online: that is the care of naturally curly hair! Even on Pinterest it is hard to find a blog or link with what I'm looking for. My searches always brought me to some girl with pin straight hair who thought that because she bought some sprunch spray from Aussie that she had curly hair, or a blog that was for the care of African American textured hair... neither of which am I. Granted, no hair care blog will ever be perfect. No one has the same type of hair, especially when it comes to curly hair. Here's some statistics for you:
"The average person with natural curls have an average of 2-4 different types of curls growing on their heads."
"Wavy hair is more predominant than curly. 34 percent of women have wavy hair; 11 percent curly." {{from hairboutique.com}}
So when it comes to curly hair, things can get difficult when trying to find the "perfect" hair products. The first step to finding out what products you need is defining your hair type. This includes texture, curl definition & thickness. I'd have to say that my hair is pretty moderate texture wise. It is very soft to the touch (without product), and isn't too frizzy when the humidity is in my favor (though living in Tennessee, that is rare from the months of March-October, ha ha). My curls are also a wide variety of the different types. My curls are pretty spiraled (s/z shaped), but towards the ends of my hair. That causes the hair on the top of my hair to lay "flat" because of the weight, as well as stretch out the defined curls. Having extremely thick hair does not help in the lifting issue either.
*So!* I labeled my problem areas. I have thick, heavy hair which caused my curls to stretch and weigh down my hair. Once I did this, it was pretty simple for me to know what I needed. The only problem, is when I searched online for guidance and expertise I was greeted with a large issue: money. Almost all of the blogs I would read would give a list of 20 different products they used daily, and almost every one was on average $7. I'm sorry, but that is insane to me. I will splurge on my favorite product (Big Sexy Hair) if it's on sale at JC Penny, but I am pretty stingy with when and for what reasons I use it. For everyday use, I pretty much refused to cave in and buy products that would put me "in the hole" financially just for the name of a product.
Through much trial and error, I have found FOUR products that have changed the life of my hair. I cannot guarantee that these will work as great for you, but they are worth the try!
1. Shampoo- Herbal Essence's Body Envy 2 in 1, 23.7 fl oz, $4.97: I know what you are thinking... "NO separate conditioner?? Carrie, you have lost it." It sounds crazy, but this shampoo has given my hair more NATURAL volume than teasing ever has, not to mention it smells AMAZING and lasts all day. I can count the number of times I've attempted to tease my hair on one hand. It was SO tedious and annoying that I couldn't wrap myself around why anyone would want their hair to have body so bad that they would torture themselves. WELL, you're welcome! :) I highly recommend this 2 in 1 shampoo. If you absolutely must have some conditioner (I keep some on hand so I can use it to freshen up my "second day" hair) then just buy whichever non-waxy brand you like.
2. Gel (recently stopped using mousse for gel)- la bella Lots of Curls Styling Gel with Frizz Control, 22 oz, $2.99: I really love this gel for several reasons. I bought the extra hold bottle, but it still has a touchable feel even though it has phenomenal hold. I have medium length hair that brushes at my shoulders, so I used a quarter sized amount. But because of the thickness it goes a long way. It also doubles as frizz control and definitely does it's job! It also smells like fruit loops! Hehe
3. Holding Spray- Aussie Sprunch Spray, 8.5 fl oz, $2.97: This is basically every curly headed girls go-to for holding spray. I used to use Tresemme Curl Lock Spray but it made my hair feel rough. So I switched back to my original brand. I use this in my hair before I dry it with a diffuser and it helps with the definition of my curls. I also keep it in my purse in case my hair needs some extra TLC.
4. Aerosol Hairspray- Aussie Sprunch Aerosol Spray, 10 oz, $2.97: I find this most helpful to keep my hair in place. Again, it keeps my hair feeling soft but holds tremendously. I especially like this hairspray for when I decided to wear my hair up. It controls my fly-aways without making my hair look greasy. Plus for church to keep my poofs under control. :)
For a grand total of $14-$20 every couple of months I can get great quality products that define my curls, prevent frizz and give my hair healthy, natural volume. It may sound silly, but I am thankful that I finally found my perfect quartet of products that make sweet, sweet music that is my hair. Happy hair= happy Carrie.
Happy Styling!
-Carrie Anna
Hair styling tutorial in the near future to follow...
Anyhoo, I was looking through my blog ideas and decided on one that I very rarely see online: that is the care of naturally curly hair! Even on Pinterest it is hard to find a blog or link with what I'm looking for. My searches always brought me to some girl with pin straight hair who thought that because she bought some sprunch spray from Aussie that she had curly hair, or a blog that was for the care of African American textured hair... neither of which am I. Granted, no hair care blog will ever be perfect. No one has the same type of hair, especially when it comes to curly hair. Here's some statistics for you:
"The average person with natural curls have an average of 2-4 different types of curls growing on their heads."
"Wavy hair is more predominant than curly. 34 percent of women have wavy hair; 11 percent curly." {{from hairboutique.com}}
So when it comes to curly hair, things can get difficult when trying to find the "perfect" hair products. The first step to finding out what products you need is defining your hair type. This includes texture, curl definition & thickness. I'd have to say that my hair is pretty moderate texture wise. It is very soft to the touch (without product), and isn't too frizzy when the humidity is in my favor (though living in Tennessee, that is rare from the months of March-October, ha ha). My curls are also a wide variety of the different types. My curls are pretty spiraled (s/z shaped), but towards the ends of my hair. That causes the hair on the top of my hair to lay "flat" because of the weight, as well as stretch out the defined curls. Having extremely thick hair does not help in the lifting issue either.
*So!* I labeled my problem areas. I have thick, heavy hair which caused my curls to stretch and weigh down my hair. Once I did this, it was pretty simple for me to know what I needed. The only problem, is when I searched online for guidance and expertise I was greeted with a large issue: money. Almost all of the blogs I would read would give a list of 20 different products they used daily, and almost every one was on average $7. I'm sorry, but that is insane to me. I will splurge on my favorite product (Big Sexy Hair) if it's on sale at JC Penny, but I am pretty stingy with when and for what reasons I use it. For everyday use, I pretty much refused to cave in and buy products that would put me "in the hole" financially just for the name of a product.
Through much trial and error, I have found FOUR products that have changed the life of my hair. I cannot guarantee that these will work as great for you, but they are worth the try!
1. Shampoo- Herbal Essence's Body Envy 2 in 1, 23.7 fl oz, $4.97: I know what you are thinking... "NO separate conditioner?? Carrie, you have lost it." It sounds crazy, but this shampoo has given my hair more NATURAL volume than teasing ever has, not to mention it smells AMAZING and lasts all day. I can count the number of times I've attempted to tease my hair on one hand. It was SO tedious and annoying that I couldn't wrap myself around why anyone would want their hair to have body so bad that they would torture themselves. WELL, you're welcome! :) I highly recommend this 2 in 1 shampoo. If you absolutely must have some conditioner (I keep some on hand so I can use it to freshen up my "second day" hair) then just buy whichever non-waxy brand you like.
2. Gel (recently stopped using mousse for gel)- la bella Lots of Curls Styling Gel with Frizz Control, 22 oz, $2.99: I really love this gel for several reasons. I bought the extra hold bottle, but it still has a touchable feel even though it has phenomenal hold. I have medium length hair that brushes at my shoulders, so I used a quarter sized amount. But because of the thickness it goes a long way. It also doubles as frizz control and definitely does it's job! It also smells like fruit loops! Hehe
3. Holding Spray- Aussie Sprunch Spray, 8.5 fl oz, $2.97: This is basically every curly headed girls go-to for holding spray. I used to use Tresemme Curl Lock Spray but it made my hair feel rough. So I switched back to my original brand. I use this in my hair before I dry it with a diffuser and it helps with the definition of my curls. I also keep it in my purse in case my hair needs some extra TLC.
4. Aerosol Hairspray- Aussie Sprunch Aerosol Spray, 10 oz, $2.97: I find this most helpful to keep my hair in place. Again, it keeps my hair feeling soft but holds tremendously. I especially like this hairspray for when I decided to wear my hair up. It controls my fly-aways without making my hair look greasy. Plus for church to keep my poofs under control. :)
For a grand total of $14-$20 every couple of months I can get great quality products that define my curls, prevent frizz and give my hair healthy, natural volume. It may sound silly, but I am thankful that I finally found my perfect quartet of products that make sweet, sweet music that is my hair. Happy hair= happy Carrie.
Happy Styling!
-Carrie Anna
Hair styling tutorial in the near future to follow...
Thursday, July 25, 2013
You mad, bro?
Yesterday afternoon I was able to find out some exciting news! When I heard the news, I was so overwhelmed with joy I let out one of those girly, high-pitched "EEKS!" and did that weird motion where my hands are in fists shaking in the air, then go into the over eager hand clapping. Yep. It was awesome. The news was this: my best friend and her hubby are expecting! Jessica has been my best friend since 5th grade (I will more than likely share that story in a later post), and her husband Matt has been a great friend to me since I've met him before they were even dating. So, as you can imagine, I was elated when I heard the news!
I had previously known that morning, but at church we took a picture to show my excitement :)
Matt & Jessica's announcement (permission to use was granted)
It was very easy for me to be so happy for Jess, because she was my friend. Naturally, that should be my reaction... right? Just in case you were wondering, the answer is yes. Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. Romans 12:15 As a saved person, our "instinct" should be to rejoice with those who rejoice; to weep with those who weep.
*I know it seems like I'm rambling, but I'm getting to a point here...*
Like I said, I was very excited for my friend; but, there were other times where people would share their joy and I would think to myself, "Wow. My life is so boring. I am 21, unmarried unlike ALL my friends (which is such an over-exaggeration because not all my friends are married), let alone having a baby. i'm still living with my parents, and I'm just at home doing nothing but church stuff." So how about when it's NOT easy to be excited? God's Word doesn't change with our crazy emotions and opinions. Before you cast a stone at me for having a terrible attitude about other's joys, think about all the times that YOU (single lady) have had those thoughts. Maybe I was a tad too honest in sharing that string of thoughts I have had, but I know that I am not the only one to have that ugly attitude Let me be even more honest... more than likely, it'll happen again. You know why? Because I am human.
Let me be very, very clear...
Having that attitude is so very wrong, and if you let it get out of control it can cause tension and stress on your friendships with those, who in your eyes, are becoming "more successful" than you. God has a separate plan for each and every one of our lives. The plan God has for me is not the same as Jessica and Matt's. Just because someone's life is seemingly moving faster doesn't mean that you are being left in the dust. Dr. Don Woodard wrote a short book titled Marrying the Right One after watching so many of his young people in his church make hasty decisions about marriage and life. My pastor's wife used this book in a mentoring class and used this quote as the main text: "God's perfect will for my life is to serve Him day by day." In Romans, we are told to present our body's as willing sacrifices. THAT is God's will for our lives. To live for Christ and trust Him day by day. We do not know what our future holds, but what we do know is that we have a future. We do not know all the steps and the time and process to get to the next stop in our journey, but have been given a simple direction to get us there: Serve the Lord. Not only that, but serve Him with gladness! No one likes to be around negative people. Negative Christians are the worst! ;) Rejoice in the moments the Lord allows us to experience every day. One day your prince will come! So until you have reached that part of your plan, rejoice! The Lord has given us so much. To the best of my ability, I am going to keep on serving Him with a smile on my face... despite my attitude! I guess to sum up my stray thought, I will say this: It was a good day when I saw the ugly "single-girl" chip on my shoulder and dusted it off. My life is wonderful! I enjoy and look forward to getting to babysit all these precious little babies that are running around/will be running around the church :) I have faith that the Lord has what's best for me in the area of marriage and having children. But as of now, I want to serve Him with all that I have.
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things NOT seen. Hebrews 11:1
-Carrie Anna
-By the way, excuse my cheesy headline. It's almost 1 a.m. so I am a little on the silly side right now :)
-Here is a humorous picture I found on Pinterest that is an accurate description of how having the mentality/chip on the single-girl's shoulder that I discussed looks like. Enjoy!
-Here is a humorous picture I found on Pinterest that is an accurate description of how having the mentality/chip on the single-girl's shoulder that I discussed looks like. Enjoy!
Saturday, July 13, 2013
Camp Ramblings
Well, I just got back from a week of camp with a small group of teens from my church! I was the "Group Leader" so I was nervous at first... would I be too rough? Would I not be stern enough? Would I have a kid die on my watch? I was a tad stressed with the pressure of being their guardian for a week. Nevertheless, I am thankful I was able to go! You see, I am a camp veteren! I've been going to the Power of Two Youth Camp (http://powerof2youthcamp.net/powerof2youthcamp/Home.html) since I was 15. Now that I am 21, I have just been a chaperon, so I've been able to sit back and watch the kids. Let me just say, my heart was blessed TREMENDOUSLY! I watched our teens drink Sprite with Alka Seltzer in their mouth and spew it, catch chocolate covered marshmallows in their mouths while laying on the floor and do all sorts of crazy things! Their enthusiasm reminded me of my camp days (I might share some pictures later). :) But, as fun as that was, nothing helped me more than to see them praising God during the worship service and respond to the preaching. Each of them made me proud as their leader, as well as pleased the Lord in their actions and behavior.
So yes! I was very blessed this year. I will be honest, a lot of my excitement was getting to see some of my best friends that would be working. But ya know, they were working so I barely saw them lol. Just as I was finishing that thought, we heard some great, straight and true Bible preaching and let me tell you... it was GOOOOOD! One of the messages that touched my heart the most was the message on purity. Not a lot of preaching is done on this Bible truth these days. Yes, I said *Bible truth.* Purity it taught to be practiced in the Bible, and for some reason people want to pretend it isn't. But for those of us who DO have a past of impurity (in heart OR an act), I am SO thankful that Jesus buried our past! You can be pure NOW. So here's the link to the message that really helped my heart this week in that subject. More to come!
- Carrie Anna
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvxg0uBgNkU&feature=youtube_gdata_player
So yes! I was very blessed this year. I will be honest, a lot of my excitement was getting to see some of my best friends that would be working. But ya know, they were working so I barely saw them lol. Just as I was finishing that thought, we heard some great, straight and true Bible preaching and let me tell you... it was GOOOOOD! One of the messages that touched my heart the most was the message on purity. Not a lot of preaching is done on this Bible truth these days. Yes, I said *Bible truth.* Purity it taught to be practiced in the Bible, and for some reason people want to pretend it isn't. But for those of us who DO have a past of impurity (in heart OR an act), I am SO thankful that Jesus buried our past! You can be pure NOW. So here's the link to the message that really helped my heart this week in that subject. More to come!
- Carrie Anna
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvxg0uBgNkU&feature=youtube_gdata_player
Monday, July 1, 2013
Heart-to-Heart
In these modern times, we are told on every corner to "follow our hearts" and speak our minds, say what we feel and have no regrets. Well, I don't know about you, but I have listened to my heart when I should have listened to the still, small voice inside me telling me "No." I have regrets about the words I've recklessly let pour out of my mouth. Our heart is above ALL things desperately wicked (Jeremiah 17:9). I've also spoke my mind out of anger without putting any thought to the consequences and hurt people who I love. I've also, more than likely, been a stumbling block to another Christian, or made a lost person turn from what I was saying, by not having COMPASSION behind my words. That my friends is what makes the difference (Jude 22)! To have compassion, we must guard our hearts from this worldly concept of "Say what you want, do what you want." That thought is destructive, in the sense that it causes one to be prideful and/or selfish; and honestly, each goes hand-in-hand.
Proverbs 4:23 says, Keep thy heart with ALL diligence: for out of it are the issues of life. When you stop guarding your heart, you allow seeds of bitterness, jealousy, selfishness and pride to take root in your heart and grow ugly weeds that are hard to get rid of. I am telling you from experience, that once they are there they WILL come out. Women, me included, are the absolute worst about saying evil things that we let fester in our hearts, then turning around and having to mend ripped relationships. If we would take the time to guard our hearts, and keep our affections on things above, we would have less to worry about. More friends. Less gossip. Less bitterness. Less friendship that have been hurt by words spoke out of unbridled emotions. We love because Christ first loved us, correct? He gave His life for us. He continually takes us back after we forsake Him. When we are angry, He returns with a soft answer. A challenging thought! Are we loving people-- sinners, our family & friends-- as Christ loves them? Are our words drawing sinners to Christ? Are our words drawing our saved loved ones closer to God?
"That which lies in the well of your thought will come up in the bucket of your speech."
More importantly, Jesus Christ said:
"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh." Luke 6:45
Gain passion. Guard your heart.
- Carrie Anna
Wednesday, June 26, 2013
Welcome!
I am honored to have you (whoever you may be) as a visitor to my blog! Every girl has a blog these days, so I am glad you decided to give mine a look. This is my first blog, so you may have to bear with me as I tinker my way around settings and 'blog etiquette.' :)
My Mama and me
I, like so many others, am a lover of Pinterest! I have had an account for almost 2 years, and since then have found a handful of blogs that I absolutely adore! The Small Things, Undressed Skeleton, Pioneer Woman, etc. etc... I could go on and on. I have ran across blogs by women who write about their marriage, and advice on how to be a great, godly wife. Women who couldn't imagine life without their sweetie, and are constantly sharing their cleaning and cooking tips. Which I do enjoy! My best friend is married to the man of her dreams, who is also a great friend of mine, and I can be joyful for and with her! I love cleaning tips... because I still live at home and clean for my family. I love cooking and finding new recipes... because I still live at home and cook for my family and for events at church. During my two years on Pinterest and being a lover of blogs, I have yet to run across a blog (or at least a good one) that is designed to help the unmarried, single women who are using their "season of singleness" to be a living vessel for the Lord! A vessel ready to be used. A vessel to be filled and emptied to further the Gospel of Christ and to minister to her church and to others. So, a year ago I was driving thinking about how I wish I found a blog that I could read that had content along those lines. Then I had the thought: Why don't I just start one? It would be just another thing to add to my life to make sure I'm busy, and not just sitting around with all this "experience" and "knowledge" ;) You know, for us single ladies who dote and obsess the idea of being married, having a handful of kiddos, and being able to blog about all the silly shenanigans they get into. Here is my question: What are you-- what am I-- doing during this period? Am I active serving the Lord with my full ability or am I sitting around waiting? Waiting is important, but when service is concerned, we are commanded to GO (Matthew 28:19)! We are to be living vessels--living sacrifices-- for the Lord. No where in the Bible does God ever accept human sacrifices. But he does accept living sacrifices. Someone who will sacrifice their own self will, their own flesh, to serve Him. I decided to call my blog Living Vessel: Inside and Out. As a single, Christian lady my wish is to BE a living vessel. Inside, willing to do the work of the Lord without fight (which is hard, because I am a self-willed, independent gal) with a pure heart. Outside in two parts: 1) in my service my Savior, my church and to others 2) In my day-to-day life... including my dress (Oh yes friends-- modest fashion will totally be a feature! I even have a few 'modest fashion' photo-shoots in line... eek!!). On my blog you will see everything from posts about my social life, to church events, devotionals, fashion posts, recipes and general hilarity and mayhem that regularly makes an appearance in my crazy life. I am here to tell you that there IS life before marriage! You can have some of the best days of your life now! All you have to do is fall in love first... fall in love with Jesus Christ! Be busy. Enjoy the simple things in life that He has given you NOW. And when the day comes to share your life also to the man of your dreams, you can say you were a LIVING vessel for Christ... not a gal, sitting pretty on the side lines :) I love the life the Lord has given me, and I am excited to share it with y'all! God bless.
- Carrie Anna
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.Romans 12:1-3
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